Support for the whole family before and after pregnancy

Research from the National Institutes of Health shows that when pregnant people have consistent help – from partners, family members, friends or caregivers – they are more likely to attend early visits, manage stress and get help early when concerns arise. But in New Mexico, nearly one in four women do not get the necessary care they need before birth.

Nearly one in three counties in New Mexico are considered maternity deserts, areas where access to maternal care may be limited or require travel to be seen. Barriers like work schedules, childcare and other factors can also hinder timely care. When these gaps exist, partners can play an important role in helping families stay connected to care and make sure both parents get the support they need.

Keep care on track

Access to care can look different from one New Mexico community to the next. Early and continued care throughout pregnancy supports mom’s and baby’s health. Dads and partners can play a key role by helping find a provider, tracking appointments, arranging transportation and other tasks.

Using a pregnancy care timeline can also help your family stay on track with appointments. If mom doesn’t have a provider, local health departments, Medicaid offices or health plans may be able to help connect mom to care. Staying organized can make care feel more manageable and prevent missed opportunities for early support.

Be prepared for visits

You don’t need to have all the answers to be involved. Tools like the Healthy Pregnancy Quiz and a pregnancy checklist can help you understand what to expect and how to support each stage. Attending appointments when possible, taking notes and asking questions can help both parents feel more confident and informed.

Protect recovery

Care doesn’t stop after delivery. Follow-up visits support physical recovery and mental wellbeing, but they’re often missed when life gets busy. Partners can help by scheduling appointments, managing household responsibilities and creating space for rest and recovery. The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists recommends care three weeks after birth with a comprehensive follow-up no later than 12 weeks.

At the same time, dads and partners should also pay attention to their own well-being. Feeling overwhelmed, withdrawn or constantly on edge can be signs that support is needed for both parents. Talking with a provider or trusted resource can make a meaningful difference for the entire family.

Know the signs of postpartum depression and anxiety

Mood changes after a new baby are common, but ongoing symptoms for either parent may signal a need for help. In New Mexico, about one in seven women report symptoms of postpartum depression. Research also suggests that one in 10 new fathers experience postpartum depression, with postpartum anxiety affecting even more – impacting an estimated 5% to 18% of dads, showing just how common these experiences can be for families.

For moms, this can include persistent sadness, anxiety or difficulty bonding. For dads, it may look like irritability, frustration, low energy or pulling away from loved ones.

If symptoms last more than two weeks or interfere with daily life, it’s important to reach out to a provider. In many communities, especially in rural areas, starting the conversation early can help families get connected to the right support.

Pregnancy and early parenthood aren’t meant to be managed alone. When dads and partners are part of the conversation, not just as supporters but as individuals with their own needs, families are better equipped to navigate challenges, stay connected to care, and build a strong foundation for their child.

To learn more about pregnancy and recovery resources to support the family, visit everypregnancy.com.

July is Postpartum Changes Awareness Month. Nancy Parson, RN, is VP of Clinical Operations with UnitedHealthcare Community Plan of New Mexico.